I think you nailed it with the honesty, trust, and transparency comments. Everything else can be dealt with, those three are sort of the rock it all stands on or hits and sinks, imho... (A certain degree of self control, as well as an acceptance of the limitations or boundaries of the interaction parameters is also useful...)
TheUsualSuspect
· 1 year ago
Another good post - well done.
Trust is a big one for me. Making time for the other person/people is important. In the lifestyle I live (at present), going out of the way to send an email/text/IM/call to friends is hugely important - that falls into the category of remembering crucial facts. Even if it's just to remind them you haven't forgotten about them.
I suppose the answer is: go out of your way for your friends. I'm not sure I've got the payback in return (from being like this all the time anyway, I don't know any other way) but I do know the other person appreciates it!
Anonymous
· 1 year ago
why is it that all this wisdom comes once a relationship has ended? These are great ideas but once in a relationship- things tend to get all comfy and thoughts like these are all forgotten.- my best relationship has ended- we grew apart but one thing that kept it so good for so long was that instead of fight or debate we would hold a discussion taking on the other persons point of view. i.e. if i was mad at him for being late for an event- he would tell me how he felt (my feelings as he preceived them) and I would say how selfish I was (his actions as I preceived them). we would both start laughing and it would end with great "making up"
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(A certain degree of self control, as well as an acceptance of the limitations or boundaries of the interaction parameters is also useful...)
Trust is a big one for me. Making time for the other person/people is important.
In the lifestyle I live (at present), going out of the way to send an email/text/IM/call to friends is hugely important - that falls into the category of remembering crucial facts. Even if it's just to remind them you haven't forgotten about them.
I suppose the answer is: go out of your way for your friends. I'm not sure I've got the payback in return (from being like this all the time anyway, I don't know any other way) but I do know the other person appreciates it!